Parents. We owe them a debt, don’t we? Whether it be a debt of gratitude, for all those years of bringing us up; or a debt of ‘I can’t believe you did this to me’; we owe them. And for some of them, they make it a point to remind us of that very fact, every chance they get. But you know what, beloved? Even if your parents were mean to you, even if your parents let you down, even if you are looking at them right now and finding it very difficult to keep to this commandment,

“Regard (treat with honor, due obedience, and courtesy) your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land the Lord your God gives you.” Exodus 20:12 [AMPC]

Hey, it is alright. Because the moment you put your trust in Jesus, the moment you believed in His love for you and His redeeming work on the cross, this happened.

“But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name: who were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.” John 1:12-13

Our burden of care has been transferred to God, our Father. Your care is now no longer in the hands of your earthly parents. You no longer need to depend on them for love and affection; even provision and protection; because now, the burden of your care is God’s to bear. Isn’t that a comforting thought?

You know, if you think about it, our parents are just like us. They are human, just like us. They are prone to mistakes, just like us. They let others down, just like us. In every shape and form, whichever way you look at them, they are just like us. That means that if we look at them through God’s eyes,

“For He knows our frame;
He remembers that we are dust.” Psalm 103:14

They are dust, just like us. So is it any wonder then that they let us down from time to time?

Yet, because we have put our faith in Jesus, their words and actions can’t hurt us anymore, because we are now in our Father’s care. Consider these ‘model’ parents.

When Joseph was sold as a slave by his brothers, sure his father was upset. In fact, when he saw Joseph’s tunic covered in blood,

“…he recognized it and said, “It is my son’s tunic. A wild beast has devoured him. Without doubt Joseph is torn to pieces.” Then Jacob tore his clothes, put sackcloth on his waist, and mourned for his son many days. And all his sons and all his daughters arose to comfort him; but he refused to be comforted, and he said, “For I shall go down into the grave to my son in mourning.” Thus his father wept for him.” Genesis 37:33-35

But it was not as if he did not see this coming. Not a few days earlier, when Joseph told his family about his dreams,

“Joseph’s brothers envied him and were jealous of him, but his father observed the saying and pondered over it.” Genesis 37:11 [AMPC]

His father knew his brothers were upset. His father knew that Joseph had stirred up quite a hornet’s nest amongst them. But did he do anything to restore the peace? No, he just thought about it. In fact, not too long before,

“…his father rebuked him and said to him, What is the meaning of this dream that you have dreamed? Shall I and your mother and your brothers actually come to bow down ourselves to the earth and do homage to you?” Genesis 37:10 [AMPC]

His father was upset by his revelation too. So even though his father could have sorted things out and made the situation better, he did not. And we know how badly it spiraled out of control.

Yet, our Father was with Joseph, wasn’t He? In fact, every step of the way, He made sure that Joseph found favor, Joseph was supplied, Joseph was protected; even though more than once the devil did try to get at Joseph through Potiphar’s wife and various other characters who came Joseph’s way, our Father still made sure that in the end,

“Then Pharaoh said to Joseph, “Inasmuch as God has shown you all this, there is no one as discerning and wise as you. You shall be over my house, and all my people shall be ruled according to your word; only in regard to the throne will I be greater than you.” And Pharaoh said to Joseph, “See, I have set you over all the land of Egypt.”” Genesis 41:39-41

Now, what about Isaac and Rebekah? Isaac was an old man. His eyesight was failing. His wife was scheming. So put it all together and it was the perfect recipe for disaster. And we know that in the end, because of his wife’s trickery, Isaac ended up blessing the wrong son. And when he found out about it, this was his response.

“And his father Isaac said to him, “Who are you?”
So he said, “I am your son, your firstborn, Esau.”
Then Isaac trembled exceedingly, and said, “Who? Where is the one who hunted game and brought it to me? I ate all of it before you came, and I have blessed him—and indeed he shall be blessed.”
When Esau heard the words of his father, he cried with an exceedingly great and bitter cry, and said to his father, “Bless me—me also, O my father!”
But he said, “Your brother came with deceit and has taken away your blessing.”” Genesis 27:32-35

Sure Isaac was upset. But, here’s a question for you. Since the blessing was such a big deal. Since it meant so much to him and the family, should Isaac not have been more careful when giving his blessing in the first place? After all, he was suspicious when Jacob went to him.

“So he went to his father and said, “My father.”
And he said, “Here I am. Who are you, my son?”
Jacob said to his father, “I am Esau your firstborn; I have done just as you told me; please arise, sit and eat of my game, that your soul may bless me.”
But Isaac said to his son, “How is it that you have found it so quickly, my son?”
And he said, “Because the Lord your God brought it to me.”
Isaac said to Jacob, “Please come near, that I may feel you, my son, whether you are really my son Esau or not.” So Jacob went near to Isaac his father, and he felt him and said, “The voice is Jacob’s voice, but the hands are the hands of Esau.” And he did not recognize him, because his hands were hairy like his brother Esau’s hands; so he blessed him.
Then he said, “Are you really my son Esau?”
He said, “I am.”
He said, “Bring it near to me, and I will eat of my son’s game, so that my soul may bless you.” So he brought it near to him, and he ate; and he brought him wine, and he drank. Then his father Isaac said to him, “Come near now and kiss me, my son.”” Genesis 27:18-26

Didn’t make it very difficult for Jacob to deceive him, did he?

But in the end, we know that The Lord was with Esau and he prospered, despite getting a lesser blessing from Isaac. For when Esau next met with Jacob,

“Now Jacob lifted his eyes and looked, and there, Esau was coming, and with him were four hundred men.” Genesis 33:1

He was doing well. But not only was Esau doing well financially, he was healed emotionally too; healed enough to respond to Jacob this way.

“But Esau ran to meet him, and embraced him, and fell on his neck and kissed him, and they wept.” Genesis 33:4

This is surely a far cry from the Esau we saw when he had just learnt about Jacob’s trickery.

“So Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing with which his father blessed him, and Esau said in his heart, “The days of mourning for my father are at hand; then I will kill my brother Jacob.”” Genesis 27:41

You see beloved, whether our parents let us down by commission, or omission, it does not change the fact that we are now under our Father’s care. Our parents’ earthly failings may irritate us, but it will scarcely put a dent in our Father’s plans for us. God is our Father now and all His promises of provision and protection that spawn from His love for us will never be taken away, as Paul says.

“For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39

And friend, if you are battling against powers of condemnation or even neglect from your parents, you have a loving Heavenly Father who is waiting right now to take you into His arms and love you better than your parents ever could. If you would come into His arms and be loved by Him, then say this to Him right now.

“Father, thank You for loving me. Thank You that even though I was stuck in my pit, You loved me so much that you would reach out for me. Thank You that so great was Your love for me, You would send Your son Jesus to die on the cross for me. That by His shed blood, I may receive full remission of all my sins. That by His death I may receive the power to say ‘no’ to sin. That by His rising, I rise with Him into a new life where I am in eternal right standing with You. Father, yes I have baggage. But I cast all my baggage on You, knowing that I can rest in Your protection and provision, I can rest in Your love. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”

Beloved, our parents are fallible. But our Father is perfect. Our parents are weak. But our Father is strong. Lean on His love and His strength for because you are now in His care, nothing, not even your parents, can hurt you anymore.

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